How can we be expected to show love or respect for another when we have a void for ourselves? It is only when we are comfortable in the skin that we are in,will we be able to love others unconditionally. This is not to say that we will be PERFECT but perfect enough in our own eyes with our own flaws.
There is nothing more welcoming than a person who is authentic. Authenticity means being genuine and not fake. There is no need to fake or pretend to be something that you are not because guess what? Most people are not who they are perceived to be either. Only when we come into the ultimate love of oneself will people truly begin to see the authentic you.
The most authentic people in this world are honest about all aspects of their life. They do not pretend that their life is perfect or that they have never made mistakes, or even that they won’t make additional mistakes in the future. But the one thing that permeates from them is that they LOVE themselves and are on a continual journey to become better people each day.
This realization only comes when seeking to understand who we really are in this life/universe. We were made in his perfect image but with natural sin. That is not to say that because of this natural sin we have an excuse to do whatever we please. But it is to show us that NO ONE will ever be perfect. This is an unrealistic expectation to strive for. What we can strive for is a perfect kind of love which is only unconditional love. We have to love the good and the bad, the rich and the poor, the clean and the dirty.
Once we understand that truly everyone is trying to be the best that they can be under the circumstances that life hands them, then we will be able to shut down the judgemental thoughts and open our hearts up to love.